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July 18, 2024

Three Weeks Laws and Customs

The days between Shiva Aser B'tamuz and Tisha B'av are referred to as "Ben Hametzarim" (the dire straits) based on the verse in Eichah (1:3).

Shibbolei Haleket (263) references the verse in Daniel (10:2), which says, "Daniel mourned for three weeks," as referring to the three weeks of Ben Hametzarim. 

During this time, we are in a state of mourning with halachos comparable to mourning the love of a loved one. We find this in the Gemara Taanis (30a) which teaches that anything that's prohibited for a mourner during aveilus is forbidden on Tisha B'av. 

The Gemara in Yevamos (43b) tells us that even the week before Tisha B'av is considered a time of aveilus, albeit on a lower level than regular aveilus. 

According to the Ashkenazi custom based on the Rema (551:2) and even earlier by the Meiri in Taanis (30b), some forms of mourning begin from Shiva Aser B'tamuz.

Then, on Rosh Chodesh Av, we start a higher level of mourning as the Shulchan Aruch outlines (551:1-2). 

It gets more severe on Erev Tisha B'av (553:2) and even more intense on Tisha B'av itself (554:1-25). 

All this differs from mourning a deceased relative, which follows the reverse order. It begins with the most intense until the body is buried, followed by Shiva, for a week. Then comes the lower level of Shloshim, which will last a month. Finally, the aveilus ends after twelve months. So, although Ben Hametzarim mirrors aveilus, it follows the reverse order.