Sept. 5, 2023

The Power of Praise: Harnessing the Influence of Genuine Compliments in Enhancing Relationships and Honouring Others

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Season 5

What if a simple compliment could change someone's day or life? Compliments are potent tools in human relationships, and we're about to show you how to use them to maximum effect. In our discussion, we explore the nuances of giving genuine, well-timed compliments and their significant effects on the recipients. Drawing from science and Jewish prayer traditions, we highlight the importance of specificity in praise for more profound resonance.

We also delve into the power of empathy in compliment-giving, emphasizing the importance of understanding the efforts of others and recognizing them specifically. Coupled with wisdom from Abusrol Solonter, we discuss the art of honoring others generously while refraining from honor-seeking for ourselves. This engaging episode will equip you with the ability to recognize other's efforts, enhance relationships, and become someone who can profoundly positively influence others through the power of sincere compliments. Listen in, and let's revolutionize our interactions one compliment at a time!

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Delivering a well-timed, genuine compliment is such an extraordinary thing, it's such a tool in our being, adam le Chaveiro, when you can bestow accommodation, some congratulations, some recognition, somebody's hard work and something that they've done, something that they're working hard at, you will put wind in their sails, you will give them motivation.

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It acts like a drug.

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It has a mood enhancing effect and when you're honest and sincere, it has powerful, long lasting ramifications.

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So here today we're going to speak three different halachos and how to give proper compliments so we can harness this great tool in our being.

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Adam le Chaveiro, this L number one when you give a compliment, science tells us that the brain and the person will enjoy a compliment that is more specific.

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So don't just compliment the chasen that it was a nice davening or, god forbid, say the S word of shkoyach, but say that tune you use for kadusha.

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I loved it.

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I was in tears.

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I love when you daven and your kadusha is fantastic, it resonates better.

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Number two use empathy when giving a compliment, try to put yourself in their shoes.

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See what it is that they're working really hard on that maybe they're not receiving any recognition for, and compliment that when you can walk a mile in their shoes and understand what's going on in their head, you can perfectly tailor, make your compliment.

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Number three remember this from Abusrol Solonter an unbelievable tradition that while we are supposed to refrain from honor seeking and push off any forms of covet, that only goes for ourselves, but when it comes to the covet of your friend, pour it on, pour the honor on, double it over.

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You are amazing.

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Your kadusha is better than health got.

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You should have a Madison Square Garden rented out concert just for your kadusha.

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You don't know what it could do for a person.

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Great person, a smart person once said that I can live for two months at a time from one single compliment.

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Unbelievable.

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Give honest praise.

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Pat your fellow on the back.

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We'll put air in his sails.

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You will give him a pep talk, some motivation and excitement.

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Go ahead, love your neighbor as yourself and give him a genuine, well timed, specific compliment.