Dvar Torah on Parshas Chayei Sarah | Perfectly Balanced

The Torah podcast with Michael Brook. Right, right, right, right, right, right. Welcome back to this week special edition of the Torah Podcast. Barham the channel, the Torah podcast. The Torah Hkma channel has been  growing exponentially. It's seen a lot of with the help of Ashe. It's been terrific and I've even gotten to meet some of y'all. So please, if we haven't been in touch yet, please reach out. So many of the kdu of shot or a new idea comes from all of the different listeners that have their own shils, their own questions, and then I try to research them and we come out with some truth and everybody gains. So please reach out on WhatsApp 7 5 7 6 7 9 4 4 9 7 And it's this week that we are treated to courtside seats, a front row seat to a MI dose masterclass. We get to watch at Sadik Ara Avinu handle some of the hardest things that a person could go through. 

Speaker 1: We get to see what the right responses are to different life situations. We get to watch the way Aoic deals with tragedy. God forbid when Avram's trying to find a burial plot for SAR at the beginning of our power shop, we get to watch how Zoic carries out business when he is negotiating with Efron. We are privy to what Aoic is looking for when he is trying to marry off his son. What is important in a perspective match in a should of, and we get to learn the necessary preparations one should make before he leaves this world after 120. So today I wanna explore one specific nacu, the one small piece of the medos that we see from Avino. And without question, the most dominating theme of our par is a ramma vi's search, or specifically his sendoff of Eliezer, his trustee servant to go find a spouse for Yahoo. 

Speaker 1: So it seems like specifically medos when you're looking for a shit, what's important. So as we begin to explore this, I wanna begin by saying that all of the tire that we have here today on this podcast should go up and be  a merit that any person that needs Ada should find it to prepare Yanu. It should come very, very soon and they should be ze and live happily ever after. And with that, let us begin. There's something different about what a rums looking for in Ashi for his son and what we normally look for when we're looking for a perspective match. We normally ask about somebody's meat dose. Is he a mech? Is she a sweet person? Are they giving people, and we kind of take for granted,   do they believe in God?  Do they learn Torah? How is their mitzvah adherence to the point that we might not even ask the question? 

Speaker 1: And it's odd that if you're medi that so him, well seemingly have Ram Avinu doesn't even tell Eliezer to search after somebody who's God fearing, who even is Jewish or even believes in God or has discovered God. In fact, Eliezer's only barometer for the match is someone who is willing to give water to me and to the camels and understands what casa it is and what giving is. That's fitting for a sh. But what about does she even believe in God? Is she even Jewish? That all seems unimportant as long as she has good.  And perhaps one answer is from one day to the next. Our amna fluctuates, we believe strongly one day and then the next day we kind of lose faith. It's that our ideals and beliefs can ebb and flow and belief in God can be taught and shown, but mitos  a bit more hardwired into us, they're harder to change. 

Speaker 1: And Solan famously said that it's easier to finish all of Shas, all  gemara. It's easier to do that than it is to even change one Mira one character trait, be it as it may mitos and said, and how a person acts as Dereks is clearly what a rum cares about in Ada. So we know that mitos are important. Now there's something else odd about this Paraia we find the longest per in all of Tyra is this idea, this narrative of finding a should off. The Psen seemed to keep going and going, repeating the same story from two or three different angles. And we know that r Kiva was daring Hal Lakos from the mere crowns of letters. And here we have seemingly redundant, extra psen that just keep going and going. Even the gamar tells us the world was created with  hey with one letter. 

Speaker 1: And here we have so many letters, so many so him, all seemingly about something that may not need to be elaborated upon so greatly. So it must be that there's a lot to know here. There's a lot to unpack and there's a lot to learn about mitos. So doses are important. It was the only thing A who cared about initiative. And also there's clearly a lot to learn. I wanna take the time to debunk one myth about medos and to bring to the forefront of our   minds how the rambam explains what proper medos are and to explain the concept a little bit. And this ram can be found in hikos DEOs olive. 

Speaker 1: A person should seek to find a balance, the mitos equilibrium for each mi that he has to find that middle ground in Amita to not be too aesthetic or too lustful, not too calm and not too amped up, but the perfect middle. As humans, we tend to grab onto the good and push away the bad. And we assume that if there's a media called simla. So let me go all in on simha, if there's aa called ans humility, let me go all in and become the biggest unov. But ream tells us that's not the way, the way is to find that 50 50 ground, that perfectly balanced middle ground in Medos, always bi simla. Yet also on the flip side focused and serious. And the question is, why is that? Why is this how good medos is done and continues? The Rambam and a couple Hals later, why this is al Havi quele, the whole sak, the prophets would give names to Hashem for his mitos. 

Speaker 1: Eric Hara has said Tom Giza the Kyo, all the different names that they would give to ashe's attributes la to show to them. Cuz these are the good paths via charm that are straight, that are balance, that are in the middle Him the lamos give Coco. And we are obligated to mimic Hashem in his ways as much as humanly possible. Ska to become godlike. And when you break it down and you study the world, you realize how balanced everything is. How balanced the ABIs medos are. The Machar explains that if Hasham is a rockham who's always a merciful father, giving us time to do chah, how can he also be a God of den, a God of justice, A God who punishes the wicked? And there's paragraphs on paragraphs from the ram call explaining why everything is perfectly balanced then Ms. And straight and the world that asham created. 

Speaker 1: We know that if there was an inch closer to the sun, it would burn. If we were an inch further, it would freeze. There's a proton for every neutron and everything is perfectly balanced. Hashmi. Those are perfectly balanced, perfectly, Ms, perfectly just. And the world is the same. Everything can hook hasi in total equilibrium and balance. And we must strive to mimic that in our mi when giving to daca. Of course everyone's gonna say that charity is a great thing to do and a great mi  a great mitzvah. But there's a halas you can't give away more than a certain amount. You can't give away all of your  assets and not be able to support yourself. There's a middle target area of the amount of person should give away to Zaca. There's a very, very subtle line between confidence and arrogance. There's Amita called shiftless called ans, and there's Amita called Godless. 

Speaker 1: Amita called I am a confident person and get in the way of my Torah and my mitzvahs. And I'm not happy because I'm a gule and it's important to me  to that I'm gonna learn in