Tisha Ba'av | Feel The Pain

This tisha bav, you should be down right on the floor crying, wailing, sobbing about the loss of the Beis HaMikdash the horrible and the destruction that was you should be uncontrollable with your sobbing. And I'm going to tell you why. A very scary and true story that happened, but 100 years ago, about a couple name, dovid and sara, but they might as well been named Avraham, and Zara because of their superlative kindness. They were the type of family in the town that you needed anything and you went to them. Travelers that would pass or the town would stay at their house, his wife would run gemach for less fortunate brides in the basement. He was always the first minyon, he gave the DAF Yomi shiur. They were the destination for anybody who needed anything. This couple loved and adored by all had everything. But nothing. They had no children. It was well known in the town, this couple struggled with fertility running for brochas well know by the community they would have gatherings of to for the family. It was a terrible source of pain for everyone in the community. And now, the ultimate Simcha, the couple announced that they were expecting a child there first, that community gathered in Simha word spread throughout the town, people literally dancing in the streets. So happy that finally they're couple that everyone knew and loved was life had to have their own children. The day finally came sorrow went into labor, the entire community, happy, excited gathering, waiting to hear the amazing news. In the hospital. Nobody knew what was going on. But the doctor came out of the deliver delivery room, found the husband, David and said, It seems like we have an issue. It's not exactly developing as we would have hoped. And we have a choice to make. Shall we put all of our attention and effort and saving this child? And perhaps losing the mom losing your precious wife? Or should we put everything into saving the mom? And we don't know what will happen with the baby? A decision that nobody should have to make his face white, his feet shaking, he walks into the to the delivery room. He asks his wife. So I hear this the situation? I cannot make this decision. This is your decision. What would you like to do? She says, David, we've been waiting all this time for this kid. We don't know what other opportunity we might get a need to give birth to this baby. And what happens to me, happens to me. David fights, David says no. We have other chances. We need you. I need you. The world needs you. To no avail. She says no. We need a healthy baby. And so I hope I can remain and be healthy. But go for the child. The child was born a healthy happy baby. And the mother did not make it. Saara never got to hold her precious baby. The townspeople all gathered together in the show, ready to hear the happy news. And when word started to spread, people not knowing what to do, began to sit and cry. Shocked by the events, the tragic news, everybody sobbing bitterly together. But life went on. The boy started to grow up. He was doing well in theater doing well in school. He never knew his mother. But the father did all he could to take care of this precious baby and to carry on his wife's legacy. The boys bar mitzvah was approaching and everyone eagerly came to show that week to hear the boy finally say Kaddish for his mother to get back everything that he had received from his mother, his mother who had given up her life for him. At the end of his davening the end of his Korea satire. It all went flawless. He opens up his mouth to say Kaddish and he begins. He's got his and he runs through it. Not putting an ounce of Cavanna into it. People irate rain overs of the boy. Do you know what your mother did for you? Do you know what you lost? The boy dumbfounded responded to them." I never knew my mother."
Yes, we never got to experience the base HaMikdash Yes, we never knew our mother. Yes, all If that is true, but how can we just say college running through it sitting on a tisha baav and not caring at all? Do you know what you've lost? One day a year, we get to reflect and think about what we have lost what we have currently lost. You want to feel the pain. You want to really feel the pain, this tissue above. Think about all the pain in your life. Think about everything that you can accomplish, because you just feel stuck. Think about all the minutes that you feel trapped in all of the terrible, horrible, tragic things that you feel bound by in your life. That all would melt away. If you had a Bais Mikdash you would see so clearly, you'd be able to look at the  bias and say, Look, there's I got this. but we can't point to it now. We suffer from uncertainty. We can't see the truth. Connect all of your sorrows back to the base on Mikdash. You would have been tougher. If you had the base on Mikdash you'd be doing business halacha If you had the beis on Mikdash. He'd be perfecting your Sholem bias, you'd be would no longer depressed when we had the Beis  haMikdash everything would be clear as day. That's why this Tisha Baav , cry bitterly lie on the floor sobbing uncontrollably. And remember what you lost.